3 Lies We’ve Been Told
Lie #1: We can be anything, which isn’t true. Growing up, I was even told I can be anything I want to be. The way we are wired, defines on what we do with that wiring. The truth (Jay Shetty, thank you) is, you can’t be anything you want, but you can be everything you are. Instead of saying you can be anything, find your gifts, talents and excel in what your purpose is. For example, I can’t be a sumo wrestler or a cat, but I can excel in writing. I can’t be a alligator, but
Lie #2: The greatest pain isn’t this. The greatest pain is not reaching your potential (I personally like capacity better). According to Jay Shetty, he mentioned that there’s someone out there stacking shelves that has the cure to cancer. There’s a talented singer that’s working a normal job.
According to David Goggins, your biggest fear in life should also be when you reach your final resting place, and you talk to someone or something much bigger than you. You don’t want to sit down and have a conversation with someone that says: Your in heaven (or hell), this is what you should have been on earth.
Stories.
Andrew Schulz
He got in trouble a lot. He came home and said mom, dad the teacher is not gonna like me.
Mom & dad who gives a fuck. In life, People is not gonna like you, figure it the fuck out.
Now you guys, we have kids in elementary.
The kids say: the teachers doesn’t like me, you say hey, lets get the teacher fired. Because who doesn’t like my kid. My kids are perfect.
We teach/instill to them that the world is going to bend to them. (Lie #3. )
Girl has a seizure
Girl stood up in the crowd, you can’t make jokes about that, it’s not funny.
She said she’s a EMT
We complain, but don’t help, because we think that’s enough. (Lie #4: We say that we should do what we can to help each other, but when it boils down to it most people don’t help, they are bystanders)
In life, there’s going to be things harder for you to do than other things. Those things may appear to be hard to do, that we are going to have to do, regardless. It’s gonna take blood, sweat, tears. And your sweat will break through it.
Being called weird by others isn’t a bad thing (Lie #5: That you have to be and act a certain way to be accepted by others).
F*uck socializing, stop trying to fit in, trying to rub elbows with everyone, so people can stop calling you weird.
The more weird you are, it’s a reflection of how committed you are, to focusing on your shit, molding and shaping and developing your ideas and your craft. So when it’s time for you to make your rounds, you gonna fly.
When you doing something that you are truly passionate about, there’s no Plan B. (Lie #5: That you have to have backup plans because you don’t have enough faith in your Plan A).
I’m sure you heard: make sure you have something to fall back on.
No one is coming to push you. No one is coming to tell you to turn off the TV. No one is coming to tell you to get out the door to exercise. No one is coming to write the business plan for you. It’s up to you.
(Lie #6: That someone is coming to save you. It’s your job to make yourself do the crap you don’t want to do. So you can be everything that you’re supposed to be. And you’re so damn busy waiting to feel like it. And you’re never going to, you got to push yourself.)
Lie #7 (That you have to be successful in everything).
Do you have the guts to fail? If you don’t fail, you are not even trying. To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did. Imagine lying on your deathbed and around your death bed are your ghosts representing your unfulfilled potential. The ghosts of the ideas you never acted on. The ghosts of the talents you never used. And they are standing around your bed angry and disappointed and upset. They say we came to you, because you could have brought us to life, they say. And now we have to go to the grave together. How many ghosts are going to be around when your time come? -Denzel Washington
Lie #8 (That we will always remember who we are, sometimes we lose touch with ourselves.) I can relate to this personally,
Don’t forget who you are before the world told you how to be. You will look at yourself one day, and you won’t know who you are. Because you won’t remember who you were. Sometime along the way, or maybe 13 or 14, we let go of that little person that kept us going, and we push him aside and we don’t listen to him anymore, and he’s always knocking. And after so long of a time (like 15, 20 years, you don’t even know him). You show up at your own door, and you don’t even know who you are. Your family doesn’t know who you are. So it’s important, no matter what you do, no matter what challenges you go through, you remember who you are. -Terrance Howard
Lie #9 (That being by yourself is the worst thing that can happen to you.)
Being alone isn’t always a bad thing. From personal experience, it’s less drama. See the pictures for more details.
Sometimes it’s completely necessary to isolate and improve yourself by yourself.
Have you ever had the feeling when you were in a room full of people, yet you are still isolated, because they don’t know what’s going on with you or in your head? Or you just don’t vibe with them?
As you can probably tell over the years, it’s been difficult for you to “fit in” here on Earth.
What’s popular and mainstream rubs you the wrong way because it typically goes against your morality.
It seems like what’s on TV, social media, or in the news doesn’t really align with what you know your soul wants to do.
That’s because you’re different, Alesha.
I haven’t felt like I fit in anywhere for a long time, and while I don’t try extra hard to fit in, when I find people I click and vibe with I stick with them. It’s just matching people on your wavelength.
Lie #10 (That being Selfish Is Bad) Being selfish can be a good thing.
Lie #11-You have to talk a lot to exert power. According to Always say less than necessary. People who talks less have an aura of power. When they do something or say something, people are hanging on their words, and people wonder what they are saying next. People who talk a lot signal weakness. You are probably talking too much in a lot of circumstances. If you can’t control yourself or display any self-control, how can you control a business environment?
Lie #12. This can go along with #10. The guy in this clip was directing it towards guys, but I think this lesson applies to women too. No one should be the center of your Universe. Don’t always expect people to show you the same love that you show to them. Your focus should be your purpose. I always find it interesting when people think that a romantic relationship will automatically make me happy and complete, and I definitely disagree. I’ve written plenty on this, but just because you are happy in your relationship doesn’t necessarily and automatically mean I’ll be happy. Happiness comes from within. I don’t expect people to show me the same love I show them. I’ve seen plenty of articles like this one on Medium that basically told me what I’ve always suspected: It’s not your spouse’s responsibility to make you happy. If you are unhappy single, you will be unhappy married. I appreciate people who just keep it for real with me and tell me how much work it is, instead of trying to get me into a situation that like they are in with a blindfold. Despite some of the articles I’ve written about me being single for life (and this is my ultimate plan), I have been in relationships with men before, and it’s work. I have more on this below.
Lie #13. Happiness
We tend to forget that most people judge us based on experiences from their own life that have absolutely nothing to do with us. This is a season to cease basing a significant portion of your self-worth on other people’s opinions of you. The truth is that you will never find your worth in another human being.
Sure some happiness comes from the outside, but mostly from within. This is why I always find it interesting that people try to hook me up with guys every chance they get, and they assume a relationship will make me happy because they are happy. It isn’t an automatic, and happiness comes from within. I like to find the things I love to enjoy doing, then you will attract those who are worthy of your energy (which can add to your happiness). Notice I said something similar above. And no 666, 555, and 222. I’ve been seeing a lot of angel numbers, and I’m thinking the Universe is trying to force me into a relationship, no. The one thing I thought would heal/bring me joy me caused more damage than I ever expected, no. I’m not open to romantic relationships at this time, I’ve found great things by opening up to animals and deciding to me an animal mother. Simply put, the number 222 is a message from your guardian angel to open up your heart. No thank you. I’ve opened up to animals.
Lie #14: That people will show you the same love you show them. False.
I think the greatest challenge with love is the expectation we tie to it. I’ve learned that everyone loves differently. And yes we have wants and non negotiables but you can’t expect people to love you the way you love them. Because we all have our stories. We are all wired differently which means we see the world differently. And there’s beauty in that. Love comes in different shades.
See love as a dance instead of a here’s what I’ll give you now what are you going to give me? Love should have conditions. Yes, people should meet each other half way. But if you see love as a deal, an agreement, an expectation of how it should be returned, there is very little room for magic and a whole lot of room for disappointed. Know what you want. Create the space. Love will either grow from that space or won’t. Accept it fully.
