6 Reasons Why People Can’t Handle Your Success, According To Psychology

But seriously though, why can’t they be happy for you?

In my series, I address why people hate on your success, and this is an unofficial part 3. I really didn’t need to touch this, but you will find this article is influenced by Wanda’s. As usual, I do not copy and paste. But if you can, go read Wanda’s first then come back and read mine.

And be on the look out for:13 Reasons Why Wealthy People Avoid You. That’s coming May 24th.

1. You Can’t Compete Where You Don’t Compare.

In theory yes.

2. They don’t know how to let go of control of the unknown. They are more comfortable staying in their comfort zone, even if going into the unknown could get them to success and their purpose.

You fear what you don’t know. Most people do.

2. They don’t feel they stack up.

3. They may have tried to accomplish their dreams and fell short. They may feel stuck and don’t know how to get out.

4. Some people get breaks and opportunities that others don’t.

Some people in my immediate family are die hard 9 to 5ers, and don’t know any other way to be. They are riding my hide to be the same way, I refuse. I faced enough sexism, racism and trauma in my years of school that I do not want to deal with the rat race.

Everytime they present the 9 to 5 argument with me, it’s with a negative connotation. I don’t want to look into it because of my experiences, and how it gets presented to me is a turnout. I explained in enough articles why I don’t want to work a 9 to 5er.

5. They are pissed at the choices they made. They wasn’t willing to make the sacrifices.

6. You and your success is destroying their concept of the rules (and themselves). When you take risky and unconventional choices, and end up massively successful, it’s a mind twister. How are they there, and how am I still here?

We were all taught to go to school get good grades, graduate from college, get a job and we will be successful right? When your success doesn’t look this way, yet someone you know followed all the rules yet they are not as successful as you are? It’s a psychological mind twister. You found your lane by not following the rules, yet they listened to everyone around them and still aren’t as successful as you are? Let’s just say they got good grades in school, you didn’t, yet you are making more bank than they are? You were a partier in school, yet you are a millionaire? Yet they got a PHD and they are barely making it on 40,000 salary a year?

We are all on our own journeys at the end of the day and I just find that it’s best not to compare yourselves with others, and to not take out your hate on others.

7. They feel they have to overcompensate for what they feel they are lacking.

And watching someone live the life that they feel like they will never reach can lead to resentment, jealousy, hate, and spite.

8. They are working “hard” but they are not getting anywhere. You didn’t work as hard, yet you are more successful.

Is there something that I’m missing? Let me know.


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