Do you wonder why VIPS stick together and don’t include “normal” people?
I think one issue is quote in quote “VIPs” are always being asked to do something. How would you feel if someone approached you asking you for money up front? They don’t know you from adam and you got your hands out saying “gimme, gimme, gimme.”
Imagine someone asking you for something every time you saw them. Wouldn’t that annoy you? You would probably start avoiding them them too!
Here’s the science behind connecting with VIPS. These have helped me connect with people also (I didn’t pull it out of thin air).
1.) Have Something To Offer (& Don’t Ask For Anything Upfront)
Instead asking for something up front, have a skill that you can offer when you email them/get in touch.
Are you worried that you are not the world expert on a topic?
You just have to know more than the person you are helping. When this happens, you are known as a authority in the field. When you become an “authority” the word will spread.
If you approach a VIP wanting to give rather than receive, you will more in likely get a better response and not the cold shoulder. (And sometimes you still might get the cold shoulder from some people, you got to keep trying!)
What’s worst is asking the “VIP” for something and you haven’t built a relationship. Huge no no, and if you try to approach them in the future you will be on the top of the people they dread/avoid list. They usually stick around people that doesn’t ask for anything in return (or they do things for each other).
Bonus: Have a cool project that you are working on, and they hear about it (you will be amazed how people find out about stuff, but they do!)
I actually have people get in touch with me on LinkedIn because I’m working on projects and nowadays articles. I don’t send around messages saying “look at me” or “pay attention to me.” Trust me, if you work on projects that’s making people’s lives better, (or is really successful), you will have people getting in touch with you.
2.) Live A Life
Be the person people want to know about by getting a life and living it to it’s fullest. I know that sounds cliche but it’s true.
If your life is full, you will be able to hold great conversations and connect with more people. Did you just travel around the world? Did you start your own business? Did you jump out of a plane?
You will have plenty to talk about.
I was watching Megan Kelly’s interview with Dr. Oz, she said this really great quote.
If you are feeling unhappy or a general sense of malaise about where you are, the decisions you’ve made, no one is coming to save you. You are in charge of your own destiny, work hard then work harder, do better, be better, settle for more-Megan Kelly
She’s right on being charge on your destiny. Connecting with VIPs will take work, but no one is going to change your life for you.
Make yourself stand out so they might reach out to you!
3.) Be Social and Approachable
Genuinely be interested in what others are doing. Make the conversation about the other person before talking about yourself. And it’s common to want to talk about yourself and get recognition for your accomplishments. But the key is to put the attention on the other person.
Don’t just call people when you need something or need a “favor.” Call them for their birthday. Call them and don’t expect something in return. Naturally, people will more in likely want to do something for you!
4.) People Work With People They Know, Like, And Trust
Feel your palms get sweaty? Throat getting dry?
Is your heartbeat racing as a result of being in the presence of others whose achievements are through the roof?
If you can manage how you react around them, they won’t see you as an outsider. Because guess what!!!!!!
VIPs and celebrities are used to having people around them that act nervous, uncomfortable, antsy, or just plain crazy due to their status and/or fame. If you can suppress that instinct and just act like nothing is out of the ordinary, it will be noted. If you don’t rush to try to get a picture with them like a normal crazy fan would, it will throw them off “like wait, they treated me like a normal person? Shit.” You can be the exception rather than the rule. They are more in likely to embrace you because lets face some facts:
- There’s people trying to get next to them ALL THE TIME to get something off them ALL THE TIME.
- Because of this, they have their guard up. Wouldn’t you?
If you take the time to get to know them as a normal human being and not the big wig football player, or that artist with platinum record sells, you can build a relationship, and they can get to know you, like you and trust you.
Do you think Jay-Z is going to ask Prince William for anything? EXACTLY. Do you think Princess Kate is going to ask Beyonce to pay a bill? EXACTLY. Celebrities stick together because they don’t be asking each other for stuff!
5.) Act Like You Belong
It can be a self-fulfilling prophecy if you can keep your cool: if you act like it is totally normal for you to be in the VIP’s presence, and BE YOURSELF, your chances of fitting in are higher. This means they will treat you in a more normal and human way, rather than like an outsider. “Hey, they didn’t jump all over me when they introduced him/herself.” “He/she is one of us.” “Omg, there is someone out there that’s not trying to get something off me for once.”
6.) Keep Trying
You might have to keep trying for a while before you connect with VIPs. But make sure your intentions are in the right place. Don’t use people!
Hello! I’m Alesha! I’m a musician, actress, entrepreneur and writer and recent hospital patient (I still can’t believe that is real). Follow on Twitter. If you like what I’m writing, give me a heart and share! :) I like hearts. Let me know what you want me to write! Click here!