Great read! This article came to me when I've been cutting out a lot of my past. I was the friend that cared too much and showed up too much. It wasn't appreciated or reciprocated. And it was one sided too many times. I said you know what a couple of years ago. I saw the writing on the wall, and changed how I showed up and boy oh boy. I think people are surprised that this side of me exists, because I let people who didn't deserve access to me for so long that when I cut access to me, they were shell shocked.

I'm not into drama and I rather be on my own then have toxic company. On some level, many people from my school years didn't get me and I just knew based on my experiences, we wasn't on the same page. They wasn't my crowd. But also not being the jealous type, I saw too many wanting to tear others down because they were down. I started distancing myself. It's that same idea of drinking poison because your thirsty-don't run back to people that mistreated you because you're alone. I'm the only child and have no issue with leaving folks alone lol. With that being said, I have my homies, but I'm very picky on who I let in my peaceful sanctuary nowadays.

I'm letting a lot more people miss me nowadays. I've taken a step back. I've put boundaries in place. I made my peace, my happiness and my purposes a priorities. I post on Instagram like 2 to 3 times a year and cut back on stories. I haven't posted on FB lately. I let them miss me.

Funny thing that's been happening to me since I've taken a step back (and slightly odd). Now that I don't care, want them to move on from me and now that I decided to take my destiny into my own hands? Some people from my past that didn't want my friendship at the time is NOW creeping on my socials, getting mutual acquaintances to try to figure out what I'm up to, and I'm getting some "hey I wanna make amends" type messages. No thanks, I remind them that my chapter in their books are closed. I want to see them eat, but not at my table. I can definitely say disappearing works..lol.