If You Crave Time Alone, Science Says You May Be Much Smarter Than You Think
Plenty of studies show that people who socialize more tend to be happier. At face value that makes sense: relationships…
In Jeff Haden’s article If You Crave Time Alone, Science Says You May Be Smarter Than You Think, I became happy. Why?
I come up with my best lyrics and posts when I have a hour or two BY MYSELF. NO SHAME.
As he mentioned in the article, I like to spend time alone working on projects and exploring new ventures. I enjoy learning something new. This year, I taught myself how to play guitar. I became a contributor to several new publications by sending the emails 2:00 am in the morning by myself. I’ll spend more time writing business plans, writing posts, or grinding away at all the steps I need to reach my goals. So no, I don’t feel like a loser, a loner or an outsider.
I posted on Snapchat that I’m on a writing grind for Medium and I don’t plan on slowing down anytime soon.
Some people think of “being alone” as a bad thing. It either means you’re anti-social, or unwanted, neither of which are a good position to be in.
But actually, being alone isn’t’ necessarily a bad thing, as there are a handful of benefits that emerge once you learn to embrace solitude.-Tony Robinson
Yes, I love hanging out with people. There are fulfilling benefits with having relationships with others. I can’t imagine life without other people.
By relying too much on others for happiness, you will end up getting hurt in the long run. More and more I’m getting to a point where my happiness affected by my personal achievements, being grateful, travels, and aspirations. I’ll keep saying that I’m not trying to suggest that other people can’t add happiness to you. This Transcend Your Limits article hits it perfectly. By letting people decide how happy you are, you give away the most basic control of yourself to people that may or may not turn out to be good for you, or even responsible enough to be trusted with your happiness. Being alone doesn’t scare me because I stopped seeking validation from others a LONG time ago.
Quick story: In my years of school, I confided a secret or two to people that said they were my friends. Every opportunity they could, they started gossip and said I started it just to keep trouble going. Do you really think that being around people like that are beneficial? Cutting ties with backstabbers was and still is one of the best things I’ve could have done. Again, being alone is not scary. Being with the wrong people is scary AF. Nowadays, I keep my wall up, keep my eyes on the masses and go the opposite direction.
When I’m working on new music or making beats, please give me my space (unless you are working on the track with me).
When I’m coming up with new ideas for a business, please don’t disrupt my thoughts.
When I’m walking down the street going over song lyrics practicing my craft, it’s not crazy. It’s called improving myself.
If you see me out and about, please don’t ask me who I’m with if I’m by myself, like being alone is the worst thing in the world. It’s not. People think being alone makes you lonely. Being surrounded by the wrong people is the loneliest thing in the world.
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