I Wish I Could Have Adopted These Principles At Age 17
This was right before my personal titanic hit in school years ago.
(Thank you Andrew Polston from a wealth post, mine are the alphabets.)
- Stop buying dumb shit. Buy things that pay you to own them, then buy whatever you want.
1a. Instead of buying an iPhone, buy apple stock.
2. Life ain’t fair. Stop trying to make it fair. Go make life fair to your advantages.
2a. People will have a certain way they see you. People are not going to want to be your friend because you are not what they are looking for, due to prejudices and stereotypes, you fall into a demographic that people dismiss, sadly. Hang on to the good peeps you meet. Don’t let the world affect how you see yourself, because honey, in college, they are gonna try and beat the ever living confidence out of you. I wish you knew that everything you were told growing up, especially about them caring about you is a lie, they could give two f***s about you.
2b. Please understand the differences between an acquaintance and a friend. Not everyone you talk to is a friend. They are people you talk to. Here’s a guide for small talks and how to have deep talks.
2c. Understand the difference between socializing and making friends. I’ve written several articles on this, but this reddit thread is pretty good.
Maybe you have to differenciate between socializing and making friends.
Getting close to people requires time. You can be a nice guy for them when they give you their number, but party-chats do not end up in profound friendships all the time.
That people show up when you are initiating something means they like you and your “events”. Don’t be so harsh on yourself.
Maybe you try too hard to be included in everything. It might intimidate other people, even annoy them.
From what I can read, you are a leader, but don’t have your own group of close friends. And you know what? That is totally fine!
If you feel lonely, try to hang out 1:1 with somebody — so they can get to know you better.
And pick up some hobbies — you might meet people who have the same interests as you and you can relate to them better.
Easy, OP. You are doing fine.
Stop making friends with EVERYBODY.
Most people have a set of friends they have in life…as you grow older some of those drop off and then you meet more in college, at work, or when you move into new neighborhoods etc.
BUT…people don’t have freaking tons of time in their lives to hang out with every single one of the friends they have made in their lives so maybe you have been spending so much time making friends at every single thing you attend that you neglected the ones that you should have kept?
One more thing. I’ve known one of my good friends since we were 17 years old. Her priority is her husband and kids. I am important to her but I know that if I were to ask her out she may or may not go if something is going on with her family. If I cried every time that happened we would not be friends. Also, we are alike. I’m one of those people too-I make my relationship a priority for the most part so I ‘understand’ her.
I have another friend who invites me to too many things, and she lives kind of far from me, and I will admit that she is the one who has to ask me to do things…but I’ll tell you what, if she complains about that (which she doesn’t) we may not be friends for long, ya know.
You have to take each situation keeping each individual person in mind and realize that not everyone is just like you.
The upside, there are people like you out there and once you find them you guys can invite the shit out of each other out and you will have friends for life. Keep trying.
3. Go to the gym and never stop going. Make it as normal as brushing your teeth. Do it for the mental benefits, not just physical.
4. Your employer does not care about you.
They pay you just enough to keep you around, and not a dollar more.
4a. Please look at this picture and let me know if you have any questions.
5. Trading your time for a fixed hourly wage is a terrible use of time.
Start looking for ways to make money in your sleep. It’s easier than you think.
6. Drinking alcohol has no benefits. The sooner you realize this, the better.
6a. I’ll admit I occasionally drink. But during surgeries, I stop, sometimes for a whole year.
7. Spend more time cheering for yourself instead of your favorite sports team. Most people do the opposite and wonder why they are so unhappy.
It’s 2022 at the time of this writing, but by the time you read it, it will be 2024. I had to write a ton of content ahead of time to stay consistent despite what’s happening. 🔥🙌
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