According to Tai Lopez, there are 3 groups of people you should spend time with.
1. People at your level
2. People above your level
3. People below your level
The Law of 33% says you should evenly spend your time amongst these 3 types of people in your life.
Too much time spent with people below your level can change your mindset negatively obviously. You need to reset your normal by spending more time with people above you.
Too much time spent with people above your level can be bad too. Because as you rise to the top, it gets lonely. Don't alienate the people that have helped you along the way.
Make sure to give back to those who need it the most. The world will be
a better place because of it.
What This Means For You
Now, for most people, they don't have the opportunity to be around people that are above their level. Not many people know millionaires in their social circle.
But if you can, hold on to them. They can be your mentors and guide you to success faster than you could ever do it on your own.
If you feel like you’re alone in your journey right now, it’s normal. I started off my journey alone too, a lot of successful entrepreneurs do.
But they never achieve their success alone.
When I was young, I didn't know anybody successful. I asked my grandfather for some sort of guidance, but he didn't know the answers.
What he did do, though is he sent me box of books. He introduced me to classics like Will Durant.
If you can't find a mentor, do the next best thing: pay for it.
There's this $10 book written by Sam Walton, founder of Walmart, sitting in my library. Anybody can get access to this book and learn directly from Sam on how he built WalMart.
Another tip is to straight to the top and learn from people who have had the highest level of success. Look for something on Warren Buffett, the self-made billionaire. Or Bill Gates... Steve Jobs... or Oprah Winfrey. People that have changed the world with their ideas.
These books documented how they did it. They already laid out a blueprint for you. You just have to go read about it. Or go download an audiobook if you don't like reading.
That's what I did.
And I noticed you often get what you pay for.
Yes, you can go on YouTube and find some free content, but you won't find much concrete and practical information.
For you, whether you're an aspiring entrepreneur or an established business owner, I would recommend going to conferences and live events.
They’re great places for you to meet people at all levels for the Law of 33%. You can learn from people who are ahead of you and learn with people who are at your level.
I love me some Tai Lopez. And the law of 33% for the most part. The part of spending time with people at your level?
I was around a lot of backstabbers growing up. It would have not served me to keep these people in my life. A huge part of being successful is being careful of who you are surrounded with. Ironically, I was told I would be such an influence on these cutthroats. No thank you.
The way to go along to get along is to become a backstabber like them, as Josh Tam pointed out in this Quora post. I never was, never did and never will sink that low. I didn’t fit in. And I’m glad I didn’t. I still don’t fit in sometimes because I refuse to gossip.
I noticed in recent years people at my level (school friends) started turning on me when I started creating startups, creating music and films. Mutual friends from school who still talk to me all agreed it’s just jealousy, and they can’t handle someone who is or looks successful. It’s not my problem, as Bernadette Logue points out . It’s not my job to explain myself to someone whose goal is to misunderstand you.
What I won’t do is be a overly bragging f**** head and oversaturate my feeds with everything thing I’m doing at every given moment. Or go out of my way to make someone feel bad. I post food with revealing my projects at a later date, especially to the people who want to hear it. I call it my email list, my most dedicated tribe.
Lonely? I live in isolation. Instead of talking about being lonely I brace the adventures of being solo. I was the only child growing up. I don’t really care because I’ve had way too many people turn on me and I’m to the point it doesn’t surprise me anymore. I rather take the road less traveled, and live my purpose then go to my grave with ideas scared to pursue them because I valued others' opinions more. Read the 5 Regrets Of The Dying. I live for myself, not other people.
Tai, I’ve also noticed many people at my level remaining silent when I made the decision to step it up. It costs nothing to share a post or show encouragement but they don’t. I was treated badly in school in addition to watching a lot of friends passway. It’s too much to talk about in this article. I determined that the next part of my life, 20’s and beyond will be the best part of my life and there’s no looking back. I didn’t alienate them, but tried to hang out with them. I didn’t rub any successes in their face. They came up with every reason under the sun to not hangout. Do you think it would do me any good to keep reaching out when they tell me to f*** off and blocking me off social media? I have no shame in admitting that I hang out with individuals who net worth is higher than mine on a regular basis. My thing is finding secure people who has a little bit more or the same. After I started doing this the backstabbing and racist stereotypes really doesn’t happen anymore. Well, I probably should say it doesn’t happen as much anymore because I put myself in better environments.
I address this in both my articles, but you should never make yourself small due to someone else’s insecurities.
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