The Things You Should Have Been Taught In School, But Never Got A Chance To Learn

Alesha Peterson
3 min readNov 3, 2016


This is my serious attempt to clean out my email box from my hospital stay. My emails have a lot of great knowledge from people. I’ve been holding out on all the information in my email. I want to keep the knowledge and clean my inbox. So I came up with the idea to write a blog post on these emails. Done and done. I won’t forget to delete either.

Taller bars represent a bigger gap between how important a skill was rated, and how much education on average we receive on it. The biggest gap? Education on happiness & positive living.

In my email, over 200,000 people have taken this quiz by Mind Valley, according to Vishen. The picture is pretty amazing.

Photo Credit Goes To Mindvalley

If you’re like millions around the world, you may be frustrated with the state of the education system.

A system which leaves us in debt, grants degrees that don’t guarantee jobs or happiness, earns us only ordinary jobs that are not fulfilling… jobs where we survive instead of thrive.

There’s a way to fill in the education gaps. Imagine an education that included the best of the current system, but at the same time, teaches you how to have healthier relationships, be a better lover, a better parent, live healthier, and not just live a “successful” life, but a deeply meaningful and fulfilled life.

I wish formal education taught me: how to file taxes, how to pay bills, how to change the oil in my car, money and time management, growth mindset, financial freedom, how to win friends and influence people, and emotional intelligence, you know practical real life skills that I can actually use.

If I think back to the subjects I learned in school, I can honestly say I’m not using the information. Parallelograms are great for expanding your mind and making you think, but does it help during tax season? The ISTEP test? Sure, it’s nice to say that I was reading at a college level in 6th grade, but what about emotional intelligence?

I recently read a Larry Kim article here on Medium, that suggests the same thing. We’ve been conditioned to believe that smart people who work hard are bound to succeed. In fact, if you’re super smart, you should be able to write your own ticket, so to speak. We are quickly finding out that having an high IQ is not the most critical success factor.

In fact, research suggests that intellect may not define success nearly as much as we’ve thought. Being smart can take you far, but emotional intelligence may be even more important than an exceptional intellect.

Dr. Arthur Poropat, senior lecturer at Griffith University, conducted reviews on the “Big 5” personality factors: conscientiousness, openness, emotionalstability, extraversion, and agreeableness.

People with high levels of these traits were more likely to achieve high grades or high success than people with high IQs.

Other research from the Carnegie Institute of Technology found that emotional intelligence is a far more important success factor than standard intelligence when it comes to your financial success.

In fact, 85 percent of financial success comes from people skills and just 15 percent comes from technical knowledge.

If you weren’t gifted with an exceptionally high IQ, you can still dominate in your field, as these positive personality traits can be learned, built, and strengthened over time. (Thanks Larry Kim).

I actually was told why formal education won’t teach you these skills (especially how to achieve financial freedom), and I kept hearing it over and over again from my acting circles, and entrepreneur circles. If I revealed them to you, you may get offended. If you want to really know, shoot me a personal message at my twitter @aleshapeterson!

Hello! I’m Alesha! I’m a musician, actress, entrepreneur and writer and recent hospital patient (I still can’t believe that is real). Follow on Twitter. If you like what I’m writing, give me a heart and share! :) I like hearts.



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