I signed up for a Quora account just to answer this question, because it happens to me all the time and I find it so annoying (AND VERY RUDE when people ask). I agree with many of the comments here, very flattering and very annoying. I’m not comfortable with how people assume, and how screwed some people’s perceptions are (yes that’s not a typo, I said screwed). Humanity has not stopped obsessing over how a person looks as opposed to who they really are.
Yes, I’m sure I will appreciate it when I’m older. I appreciate the way I look now and appreciate that I’m living.
Yes, I’m sure I will be 70 and look 20 (because A: My family ages really well and we have good genes. B: I have a fitness and skin care regime that I practice every single day C: I’m extremely proactive rather than reactive every single day when it comes to my skin).
No, I really don’t like hearing about “how youthful I look” or “how cute” I look every single day. It’s annoying. If I told you the stories, you would be reading all day. Ah maybe for another Quora post I’ll share stories.
I always notice that people ask me about my age when I go to public events, but they don’t ask other people and it drives me batty. I’m starting to tell people why I find it rude that they ask me how old I am and they just met me!
Then after they take a guess, in my experience, they usually start to ask if I have a boyfriend or try to hook me up, and I find lately I have to be more aggressive than I should be about that. The general rule is to not ask a lady her age, but because perception makes people think I’m a kid, some people think they can talk to me and treat me anyway. Then I have to put my foot down and be mean. :( I hate being that way but it’s the only way I’ve found to get people to stop asking.
I get carded all the time, and sometimes people and bouncers at bars are plain rude towards me. One time, they said we can’t have teenagers in the bar and we can’t lose our liquor license. UM EXCUSE ME, I usually say that with a few choice words that I can’t repeat here haha! I sometimes think they ask for my ID just to see how old I am (especially the guys, because a few times I was asked out on a date afterwards. I had to once again remind these guys that I go to bars to have a great time with friends, drink Tequila, not go out on a date and or get married! LOL.)
In acting and modeling, they like to see a youthful looking 20 something year old. I will admit that I have an major advantage there. I get cast in different projects quite a bit. When peers talk about wrinkles and how much more makeup they have to use, I scratch my head because I don’t have age lines, crows feet, or wrinkles.
In music, I performed with my band and one comment was made that I looked 14 by Preston. My family finds it funny, and my music friends find it funny but I don’t. One time, when I was signing up for lessons and the Rocky completed blasted my age out to people I didn’t know. I’m like lady don’t!!! I was so embarrassed. Just because you are impressed doesn’t mean that I want everyone and their mother to know. I don’t go around wearing my age as a badge of honor or rub it in everyone’s face how old I am. In my opinion, people make a big fuss out of it when I don’t. When I perform music on stage, I find I get stares when I don’t have a drink in my hand. It’s not a good idea to drink before performances, so after I get on stage and start singing, it’s clear that I’m a performer.
In business, while most of my experiences in creating start-ups and obtaining business partners are wonderful, sometimes people do underestimate me. There are times when people are rude towards me, and I don’t do business with them. I know several times I went to business meetings and the speaker ignored me but acknowledged everyone else. Then when they find out they made a mistake by me, they apologize and apologize and beg for my business. By this point I go elsewhere. Was it really worth losing money over being rude? It’s the best business lesson I could ever teach them.
I don’t ask for the red carpet, and I usually don’t tell people everything I know or have upfront for that reason. I want to see if they can treat me the way they want to be treated without me shaking money in their face.
I see aging differently than my peers, and I don’t feel the same pressures they do. All of my experiences are teaching me valuable lessons. 1. To not assume because perception a lot of times is not reality. 2. Don’t underestimate people. 3. Treat people the way you want to be treated. 4. When I’m older, and I come across another quote in quote “babyface” I will give them the respect that I’m not currently given.
P.S. Because I get annoyed or asked about my age every single day I am finding the silver lining in it. I am in the process of creating a “Fountain Of Youth” program for people that want to obtain their own “Fountain Of Youth.”
Are you worried about…
- *The nightmare of looking decades older than your actual age?
- *The fear of aging quicker than your friends?
- *The fear of no longer being desired by your partner or valued by society?
Lets talk about it! Calendly — Alesha Peterson
Or if you are a fellow baby face and want to vent on someone, I’m your person. Schedule your appointment to vent here Calendly — Alesha Peterson
March 1st, 2020 Update: I’m always here to vent if needed. As usual, I’m still not impressed with how people are impressed with my “youthful” looks. They make a bigger deal out of it than I do. I don’t use Calendly as much, so hit me on my socials.
Facebook: Alesha “Silky Slick” Peterson
I’m not creating a Fountain of Youth program for the time being (maybe in the future), I have other projects, businesses and startups going on. If you are still interested in me creating it in the future, let me know!