Why Is There All This Attention On My Hair? Are You Kidding Me?

Hey There! My name is Alesha! This was technically supposed to be my 16th post. Oh well. As I was posting, I found a whole slew of posts I missed from my 1st blog post. I was trying to honor where I started and whoops. In order to clearly understand, it’s best to read these in this order. It’s almost like reading chapter 4 then jumping to 15 lol. More in likely another mistake will happen. I even tried waking up at 4 am to play catch up haha. I’m finding the more I live life, the more I’m realizing people have weird ways of sizing you up.

What is the real deal with my hair?!?!

Every time I see someone from my grade school they are always saying some comment on my hair. “That was the girl with the long hair down her back.” Whoa her hair. They look at my hair hard core. I even notice that I get blank stares when I walk down the street.

Was that the focus all throughout grade school (and perhaps high school) was the length of my hair? I always suspected jealously from the various comments throughout the years but wow. Yes my hair was down my back. Thank you for pointing out something to me that I already know/knew. Old news. You all have issues and you all are weird. There’s more pressing things and more important matters to be dealing with.

Some people ask me if I wear weave or extensions. I don’t wear weave, extensions, or wigs (unless its for a acting role and I’m a character or if its Halloween or it’s a fun event happening) so what you see is what you get. Whatever other people do is not a concern because I’m not looking that close. When you mind your own you’re not focused on other’s yards. Long or short, its my decision. I sometimes can’t believe I’m writing a post on this because it’s so ignorant. I’ve gotten to a point where I ignore what people are saying and I do what I want.

I’ve been told I have “good” hair, my hair is this, my hair is that, I wish my hair was like yours…..Wow. For real? Am I actually hearing all this? My ears bleed because sometimes I can’t believe what I’m hearing!

I know what I am and I love myself for me. Thank you for the thoughts on my hair but the ultimate question I ask back is do you know who you are? Do you love you? What you have is “good.” There is not another you. I know for some of you this is easier said than done but flaunt what you got baby. Me and my friends make a point to boost each other up and I know when they compliment it comes from a genuine place. When I compliment someone it’s honest.

To the girls that keep saying that every time I see you (which is once every blue moon thank goodness): Instead of focusing on how long or how short my hair is, why don’t you focus on making yourself a better person? You all that said those things to me are focused on the wrong things. Stop focusing on artificial things and look at the person inside.

I love people. But. For real. Say things like this it will push me away. This is generally why I’m in my own world and I stay in it.


Hello! I’m Alesha! I’m a musician, actress, entrepreneur and writer. Follow on Twitter. If you like what I’m writing, give me a heart and share! :) I like hearts.

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