Yup, preach Xanthin! After reading this, I'm like how does she understand me so much? I had something like this happen in my 20s. I'm a giver and do things without expectation. I do things for loved ones all the time and don't expect anything in return. I'm not gonna say heyyy I did this, you need to do that! Or keep count. But in those situations in my 20s? It got to the point where I was exhausted, overwhelmed and had several bad things going on and people in my life passing away at the same time. I probably could have used a listening ear and a support system. That weight got heavy. And there was zero support. It got to the point where I was like you know what, I can be bad by myself. I'm gonna stay single. One comment on here was correct. You got to define "weight" and make sure you are pulling yours. Am I the perfect person? Nope, I've always been the honest sort. During my surgeries and medical issues I know I'll be out of it for a while and I tell people around me listen, I'll be no good to anyone and will need help. But on my good days, I love doing laundry, yard work, caring for the pets and more. Dishes have never been my thing, and anyone who does dishes is my favorite. I'd rather mop first haha.