Forever A Third Wheeler

Photo Credit Goes To RedBubble. Just a warning. My dumb b***** hours every year are January 1st, April 12th, May 5th, May 24th, January 1st, any weekend I don’t have something business related or auditions.

I don’t blame you, good guys can be hard to find can’t they? Your probably just tried of them all. I saw my daughters boyfriend today that she had picked and he had gotten so fat I couldn’t believe it! Ugh! She’s only with him because he gave her money. She’s using him for his money. She’s a narcissist like her dad.

Well if your done with men more power to you.-Pat Mayfield

  • Just off the record, I saw the rest of Pat’s comment. Some of the worst guys I found were the church going claiming they are man of God types. Anytime someone proclaims they are Christian, the son of God, or a man of God, Jesus or God themselves I’m running fast. Thanks but no thanks. Shit. I’ve distanced myself from my own church because of all the toxicity. I come across a group of people who feel the same way I do, for various reasons they don’t go to church anymore. Some of the religious people I know are also the most judgmental and self-righteous people I know. I’ll find my way back one of these days, right now I’m keeping my distance and staying in nature.

There can be quite a few reasons for this.

1. You are happy with yourself. You don’t depend on others for your inner peace and satisfaction.

2. You are too afraid to trust someone. Maybe you have faced consequences before for trusting the wrong people, and now you are terrified by the word ‘trust’

3. You prefer staying alone and loneliness is a boon to you. (Same for me)

4. You are an introvert who is very hard to be freed from her shell.

5. You are more inclined to giving your effort in succeeding in life than sending your energy in relationships.

There can be other reasons also. Feel free to tell me if I am wrong in guessing any of them. Do let me know when you finally find someone. Because I respect people in love.-Ankan Chakraborty

Society forces us to partner up. Good intentioned friends try to couple singles up . It is almost like being an outcast if you are unattached. Truth is some people are strong enough to not need the support of a partner. It can feel really good and liberating to make your own decisions without having to consult almost constantly. And let’s face it, a lot of the guys out there are just not worth humouring. By the way, I’m happily married.-Gregory Dickson

There’s nothing wrong with you.

You’ve simply collected all the info that you have on the prospects, the experiences and the possibilities and you’ve decided; no thanks.

Really that’s totally absolutely fine. It’s likely just a life season that you’re in but really whatever, just be happy in your singleness if you like. And truly feel zero responsibility to anyone out there to shift or change this status quo in anyway, until such time as you might choose otherwise.-Lee-Ann Knowles

What does that even mean? Are you afraid of your emotions? Are you afraid of feeling attached to the other person hence losing your “independence”? Are you afraid of getting in touch with your female sexuality and desires because you perhaps have associated that with being “weak”?

Well yes, love tends to do that. Love tends to send our emotions in overdrive. Love has a knack of hitting us all over with overwhelming feelings and emotions that tend to “confuse” our otherwise orderly brain. We do tend to lose control and somehow build a dependency for the other person. We weave our emotions and needs around our partner because we get similar needs and affections back. That is after all what love is all about, joining of our forces, of our physical and emotional needs together. That is what make us feel complete and stronger together. So the first step to fall in love is perhaps the realization of your weaknesses, the feeling of overwhelming need of the other as if you cannot survive without them. Yes it can be scary, especially when like you, you feel you are in control and you fear losing your status quo.

Consider if you are perhaps living an ideal proposed by a modern society rather than the one your inner needs and emotions crave for. Is this what you really want? Yes, love is all about losing control and all about shifting your needs onto others. It’s an admission that we are not whole and complete without our loved ones but it is also a reassurance that we are not alone in this world and that however weak those butterflies may make us feel, at the end we grow stronger together.

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